Handling a Break Up
Break ups, I dread them, not for myself, but for the sake of my friends who are in a relationship. Believe it or not, I have cried more than a couple of my friends who were in a relationship and broke up with their respective boyfriends. Sounds funny, but it is true. Nevertheless, one thing I am positive about is that handling a break up is difficult. But then, it is all in your mind. If you accept it positively and stay cool about it, then it would not be as troublesome as you might think it to be. Hence, let me first tell you something about how to go about a relationship break up.
How to Break Up Gracefully
No Un' pleasantries Please
None of you wanted this unfortunate thing to happen, still you are at this juncture. So keep the affair as less traumatic as it can be. Making this experience minimally unpleasant, by breaking up nicely (as nicely as possible that is), is the first thing you do.
Mr or Mrs. Too Frank
During the conversation or the rendezvous be honest with each other, but do not overdo the forthrightness. You would rather abstain from telling the person you are breaking up with how bad her or she was in the relationship. Further, avoid blaming each other for things that went wrong. All said and done, come on you had some great times, how can you hurt him or her?
The D-day
Please, whatever you do, when you decide to break up, do not part ways on a day which was important for you as a couple or on a holiday. This would be a real mean thing to do.
Save Your Voice Box
Agreed that you are disturbed and in pain and agony, but that does not mean that you put across your arguments by screaming or shouting. Just relax and unless the conversation does not reach to the level of verbal abuse and beyond, hear the other person out. Withdraw immediately as soon as you feel things are going haywire.
Be Positive
Finally, as far as possible, even if you know you are going to be handling a break up, say adios to each other on a positive note. Now being positive does not mean that you be explicit about your happiness that your relationship has come to an end. Act normal.
How to Handle a Break Up
Time is a Healer
You are fondling or rather handling a broken heart, hence, you need some time to grieve. Have some 'me' time if you feel like. Otherwise, talk to your friends and say what you feel. This will make you feel better.
Analyze This
Once you have gotten over the initial shock, give a serious thought to your relationship. Introspecting whether you were right for each other as a third party would further help you in accepting the agonizing fact.
Mission Distraction
Take away your mind from the thoughts of the harrowing incident which has happened. Do something which you really like while handling heartbreak. Indulge in pampering yourself to the core and keep your mind occupied in a good manner. This is one of the most effective and easiest tips for handling a break up.
Acceptance is the Key
Finally, ACCEPT that this has happened and you have called it quits. It would be pointless to go on rambling about it. Rekindle the good memories of the relationship in your mind and chuck the bad ones. Do not let negativity creep in about this small incident. You have lots more to look forward in your lifetime.
Now that you know how to handle a break up, here are some final pointers that may help.
Break Up Advice
You have already gone through a bad experience and now feeling the need to fill the void is natural. Here sometimes once bitten twice shy does not work. So do not rush into another relationship after your break up. Give enough time for your poor lil' heart to heal. For that, focus on yourself and matters at hand. Spend time with your family and friends as much as possible and take things as they come. If you feel the need for therapy, go for it. It surely will help. Finally, be busy, indulge in some sport or any physical activity and meditation, if at all possible.
Parting ways can be as difficult as you make it. Just relax and let go and handling a break up would not be a leviathan in your emotional arena. This reminds me of what Shakespeare had said about love - Love sought is good, but given unsought, is better. I sign off here in the hope that you never have to know how to deal with a break up!
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