How Do You Know If You Are In Love


One of the most common questions about love and relationship is, how do you know if you are in love? It's never an easy question to answer, no matter how old or experienced you get in this game. Everyone has their own interpretations, ideas, beliefs, wants, and needs about the subject. The feeling of love for one person could mean completely different for another. Few people have the ability to fall in and out of love really fast, and so often, that you can never be sure what to think. That is why love can be a tricky thing. Others, like me, don't really know when love came and went away. So, how do you know if you love someone? An age-old question with millions of answers, but none which can define it.

Knowing If He's the One

Reading this, you probably guessed that this section is dedicated to our female readers (and few men, no prejudice). It's a widespread acknowledgment that women know more about love than men; not entirely true. Although girls could be more sensitive, understanding, and welcoming to the idea of being in love, believing that half the world's population is an expert on the subject would be a farfetched ideology.

Again, understanding the concept of love and being able to distinguish between "love" and "lust" is what we're looking for. Love is a feeling which every person experiences in their lives. But there is no perfect definition or reasons to love someone, you just make your own definition in life and live it. Millions of people around the world fall in and out of love everyday. So have I (fell in love, and hopefully never have to fall out of it), felt its importance in my life, and live it each day with the same intensity I had in the beginning. That is why, out of millions of definitions about love, I would like to put forth mine.

It doesn't begin with getting all those warm, fuzzy feelings in your heart. Physical appeal and attraction are its main entrance where a guy becomes more than he was before. In order to let your heart build romantic relationships with someone or even fall in love, liking that person is important. If you don't like the person from within, you can never fall in love with him. A guy's characteristics, beliefs, opinions, common sense, and the way he looks at the world/life is what makes him a man. Wanting to be with someone is as much important as knowing "who" he really is. Each individual comes like a package deal, all wrapped up with their likes, dislikes, behavior, etc. And if you feel that you don't have to deal with that and can just be with the person (without the package deal), then you're simply kidding yourself. When you accept someone in your life romantically, you are giving him the opportunity to come with "all" of him.

He's not going to give himself up or any part of him which you don't like or want. He will come with all his abilities, inhibitions, desires, wants, achievements, failures, doubts, concerns, intelligence, emotional and physical needs. When you are ready to let "all of him" be a "part of you", that's when you know you're in love. Otherwise it's just something else, just another physical attraction or a desire to be with someone; it is not love.

Knowing If She's the One

Knowing when a boy loves a girl can be quizzical as not many guys are openly ready to accept their true feelings. Why is it, that almost every time a girl has to butcher the guy with loads and loads of questions and quizzes in order to find out if he loves her or not? Perhaps it has something to do with the way guys were brought up. In some cultures, talking about your inner feelings is considered as a "girlie" thing and not many guys feel comfortable about it. Who knows, thinking and believing the same concept, some guys actually pass on the chance of living a life with someone they love.

Girls have many habits (I can't think of another word here) that are appealing to guys. Let it be physical or emotional attributes and characteristics, there is something about girls that attract guys towards them. Growing up brings a lot of unfamiliar hormones in guys which make rational thinking go out of the window. Love is taken over by lust sometimes and soon, your attraction has no room for anything more than a physical need. And, more often than not, true love just walks right out of your life. Maturity and experience are the key that provides a person the ability to recognize what love is. You can't understand love without actually being in a romantic relationship or know what romance is. If you've never had a heartbreak, how would you know what it feels like? It's not something that just comes to you and you're supposed to know what and how things are done. There are tons of mistakes that occur in a relationship, but the fact is, coming out of that and still staying strong, wanting to be with one another despite all the issues, that's your sign of love.

Ask yourself this, can you honestly accept someone, without the greed to be physical with her or take any kind of advantage for your personal satisfaction? Close your eyes, think of the person you think you love. If you don't even have to spend an eternity trying to answer the question, you know you love her.

What is love? Can something or someone tell you whether you love your best friend, boyfriend, girlfriend, neighbor, coworker, college roommate, or a perfect stranger? You could take one of those quizzes in the magazines and try to find an answer that way. But do you want somebody to tell you that you're in love or would you prefer to find out for yourself? Falling in love is the most wonderful feeling and there's absolutely nothing that can stop you from feeling this way. If you welcome it with open arms and heart, it will find you. To those who can listen to their heart and make decisions in their lives, will definitely understand what I'm trying to say. You just know it.

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