How to Meet Men


Men are from Mars and women are from Venus.

This line is most widely used to highlight the differences between the two sexes. However, I would rather use it to reinstate the fact that men and women complement each other and it is only when these two halves of the (human) world meet that they can experience the complete joy of life. So as you sit wondering how to meet a man, do not fret or feel embarrassed. There are large number of women on this planet who are on the same boat as you are. In fact, it's not just women who wonder how to meet men, there are a large number of men out there trying to figure out how to meet girls.

Where to Meet Men?

The question how to meet men is often accompanied by this other question, 'where to meet men?' Well, if you are one such woman asking yourself this question, then you definitely need to know how to meet new people at the earliest. I say so because there are men everywhere. Rather let me put it this way - there is no land on this earth where men are prohibited from treading on. From schools and colleges, from neighborhood to our offices, we work with men. We meet them all the time. But if you are looking for places to meet men, then it obviously means that you have missed all your chances of meeting men that fate had thrown your way. Never mind, where there is a will, there are options as well.

If you are at this stage that you want to know where to meet men, then it means that you want to know about places where men are in the frame of mind to meet women. The first place that springs to your mind must be bars and pubs. Yes, guys here are most open to meet new people but one must also be careful about picking on the right kind of man at these places. Gyms and fitness centers are another popular places to meet new people. However if you ask me, I think that there isn't any better place than a wedding to meet the most eligible bachelors. But these events are not as frequent as you would want them to be. Hence to better your chances, join some class. A dance class like salsa would be your best bet when you are trying to meet men.

Know What Men Want

More than the places what is important is to know what men look for in women. This again depends upon the type of man you are looking for. If it is just an eye candy that you want for a boyfriend, then dressing up well is all you require. But I was just wondering if we women could have better sense and go for those men who would be able to see through how we look and what we wear and appreciate the person we are. For such men, one needs a lot more than just looking cute. In fact, for some men a confident and intelligent woman is more of a turn on than one who is the woman of the evening but can't sustain a short but interesting conversation with him.

Options to Meet Men

All said and done about where to meet men and what attributes are required to get one interested in you. Now comes the part about what steps to take that would increase your chances of meeting men. Here are some options you can consider:

Go Online: Those who are wondering about meeting men, online options for the purpose are galore. You are not the only one suffering from the pangs of loneliness. There are hordes of souls looking for their soulmate and the cyberspace provides respite in the form of dating and matchmaking sites.

Call on Friends: If you are not too comfortable with the anonymous prospects springing out from the cyberspace, then call your friends and relatives. Tell them that you are ready to meet men. Call friends over the weekends and ask them to bring a friend who is also open for new relationships.

Break the Ice: Be it a party at your home or a night out with friends and friends' friends, remember that gone are the days when the demure girl was the one that took the heart of the most eligible guy. This is the 21st century and men appreciate confident girls who can make the first move.

Give Him the Opportunity: If you have broken the ice with this cute looking guy who makes your heart flutter every time you see him, then give him the chance to exhibit the sure signs that he likes you. If you all are dining together and you have an inkling that he likes you, linger on for a little while, till you are sure that he would be sitting right next to you. Let him pull out the chair if he wants to, give him the chance to ask you out if he intends to. In case he doesn't take the step, you should better know how to ask this guy out.

For all you young girls who want to know how to meet guys in college, borrow books and notes from the guy you like. Is he a mathematics geek? Pretend that the numbers and symbols of the subject look Greek to you and ask if he could help you with a particular chapter. For those women who have suffered in abusive relationships and have separated from their husbands, it is all the more important to know how to meet men after a divorce. Not only does it take one's mind off the traumatic episode of divorce, but if one meets the right kind of guy, it also gives everyday a new meaning.

Well, this was pretty much about how to meet men from me, although the area is far wider than the scope of just one article. However, it is important for every woman to understand that more than the place or the tactic, it is the attitude that would help you to meet the right kind of a guy.

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