Relationships are built on trust or say the saying goes. But for some people trusting someone, even their partners, might be elusive. There are people of both genders, who find it extremely difficult to trust their partners and thus, feel constantly insecure. Due to this insecurity, they start imagining things that have never ever occurred! So what causes insecurity in relationships? Can this relationship issue be tackled? Let's find out.
Insecurity Issues in a Relationship
Relationship insecurity stems from a number of reasons. The number one being low self-worth. If a man or a woman has low self-esteem, they always fear that their partners are going to leave them. They feel that they are not good enough for their partners so they will soon be left alone by them for better options (read more attractive and intelligent people). People who feel that they are not beautiful enough or smart enough to hold on to their partners are usually the ones who face this problem.
Another reason could be failure or fear of rejection from past relationships. People who have had failed marriages or those whose partners have cheated on them in the past, find it extremely difficult to trust someone again. Such people often feel that if they have been cheated once, they can be cheated again. These trust issues lead to insecurity. And finally, people who themselves are cheating on their partners, are often insecure and feel that their partners are cheating on them too. So, they too are much more likely to feel insecure about their relationship.
How to Overcome Insecurity in Relationship
As you can see, insecurity breeds insecurity. So, the first thing that you can do is to start believing in yourself. If your partner has chosen you out of so many people in this world, the reason is that he loves you, with all your faults and shortcomings. Self-esteem and self-worth cannot be built in a single day. They take time. But, you can always start working towards building them by concentrating on yourself. Start exercising and get the body which you have always desired. Join a hobby class and develop your talents. Most importantly be financially independent. The less you depend on your partner for money or happiness or anything, the more secure you will feel.
For those of you who have been through bad relationships in the past or have been cheated by their ex, the mantra is that those people who you refer to as your "past" or "ex" are exactly that i.e. your "PAST". They are your "ex" for a good reason. Then why bring them or their memory in your current relationship? Let bygones be bygones and start life afresh. Not every man or woman is the same.
As for those who feel insecure cause they think that their partners will mirror them i.e. cheat back on them the way they are cheating, the lesser is said the better. Still, here's one advice for them - Ask yourself, why are you cheating? Is something lacking in your relationship? Are you not happy with your partner in some way? Whatever might be the reason, communicate it to your partner and work on your relationship. Running into somebody else's arm is not the solution.
Insecurity can lead to lots of bad consequences, one of them being breakup. Now, you do not want to ruin your relationship over something inconsequential as your "insecurity" right? So give yourself positive affirmations that you are the best. Do not unnecessarily be jealous of your partner or compare your relationship to others. Most importantly, have your own life, be confident and just be yourself. Believe me if you do this, no man or woman in their right mind would like to let go of such a confident partner, now would they?
