Being possessive of the people we are in love with is only but natural. However, taking this possessiveness to such levels that it starts affecting the relationship itself, is something that couples should avoid. But have you ever given a thought as to why do some people act as if their partners are their personal property? Why some people need to be constantly assured that they are loved? Well, the main reason behind this is insecurity.
Both men as well as women can sometimes feel very insecure about their partners. Most of the time, people feel so because somewhere deep down, they feel that they are not good enough for their partners. They suffer from inferiority complex and low self-esteem and when they are in such a frame of mind, they act out in certain strange ways which give rise to various kinds of relationship issues. That's why, it is important that any signs of insecurity, displayed by a partner should not be simply ignored. They should be nipped in the bud so that the relationship does not fall off the right track. Given here are some of the signs of insecurity in relationships, which should be dealt with immediately.
Signs of an Insecure Person in a Relationship
The foremost sign is unbridled jealousy. If you find your partner constantly questioning you about your whereabouts, if they can not even see you talking to some person of the opposite sex, if they call you umpteen times throughout the day, just to check where you are, what you are doing and with whom you are - all these are signs that he/she is insecure.
Another most commonly observed sign is that such people will try to control their partners in whatever way they can. So if you find your partner being too aggressive and controlling in bed or trying to levy his decisions on how you should live your life - what you should wear, what you should eat, whom you should go out with, etc. it shows that he or she is insecure and has trust issues in a relationship.
Insecure people display certain kinds of behavior which are all used as a mask to hide their low self-worth. You will find such people behaving in some weird ways such as acting too funny or always talking about themselves or being too competitive, so as to get everybody's attention. Other signs are - being utterly selfish, unable to handle criticism, being overtly materialistic, fearing any kind of change in lifestyle and always acting authoritative, never bothering to listen to other's opinions.
If you observe these signs in your partner, address them as soon as possible. As insecurities are based on fear, so communicate to your partner, verbally as well as through actions, that you love him/her immensely. Build trust in your relationship by being committed, caring and giving your partner enough time. However, if you feel that even after so many efforts and reassurances from your side, your partner is still insecure, there could be deeper issues than what meets the eye. May be your partner had a bad experience in relationships in the past. May be he or she cannot trust anybody. If this is the case and you feel that it is leading towards a breakup, however you want to save the relationship, a good idea would be to take advice from a counselor.
