Coping With a Breakup


A relationship breakup can be life shattering for many people. Often times a failed relationship is perceived as a personal failure, leading to low self-esteem. Not to mention the mental trauma a person goes through due to broken promises and a feeling of being all alone in this world. If at this time, a person does not take immediate steps to cope with the situation, it won't take him or her long to fall into depression. So if you are someone who has been through a breakup recently, the below given tips are sure to help you out.

Accept the Situation
The first step towards dealing with a breakup is to recognize and accept what has happened. Do not harbor any hopes that your partner is going to come back to you. Accept the change that has taken place in your personal life completely, without getting fooled by your emotions. Also, do not blame yourself for what has happened. After all, it takes two to clap.

Recognize your Feelings
Many a time, people who have had a relationship breakup try to block out their feelings. They pretend that they are strong enough to handle any personal setback that might come their way. However, fighting your feelings is not going to get you anywhere. Instead, if you feel angry or cheated or sad or hurt or any other emotion, recognize it. It is ALL RIGHT to have such intense feelings after a breakup.

Share your Feelings
Talk about how you feel with someone close. It can be a friend or a family member, anybody, who understands you. Talking and sharing your feelings will help you to overcome your grief. You can even go in for counseling, in case you are not comfortable sharing your feelings with others.

Stay Stress-free
If anyone is coping with a breakup while pregnant, the mental trauma can be even worse. The woman may feet hurt, betrayed and abandoned. Breakups often lead to such feelings so it is necessary that stress is managed properly by taking up yoga and mediation. You should never resort to taking drugs or alcohol, to deal with such situations.

Build a Support System
Coping after a breakup becomes especially difficult if you have the same set of friends. You may no longer get invited to get-together or outings with these friends anymore. So, it's very important that you build your own social support system now. Try to make stronger bonds with your family, your school or college friends or with those in the neighborhood you grew up in. Make some new friends at your workplace. Socialize more and go out in the evenings. While surviving a breakup, it is important to know that just because one of your relationships has failed, it does not mean that you are alone now. Getting away from one relationship is an opportunity for you to nurture and focus on other relationships in your life!

Develop New Interests
Keep your mind occupied. Take up a hobby. It can be something new or something you have always enjoyed doing. Read books, learn pottery, take singing lessons or try bungee jumping. These activities will boost your self-esteem, at the same time, add a new meaning to your life!

Work on your Looks
Work on the way you look. Exercise regularly, take a healthy diet and visit spas and salons to get yourself groomed. When you start looking good, you will automatically feel good about yourself!

Start Dating
There is no harm in meeting and dating new people. But take things slow at the moment. Do not get involved in anything serious. Instead, have fun and keep things casual!

While coping with a breakup, always remember that "This too shall pass". It is just a phase in your life, which is going to end soon and that there is a happier, brighter future awaiting you!

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