How to Heal a Broken Heart


So, here is the deal. After writing several articles on breakup, turns out that my readers need some more help on healing a broken heart. I don't blame them, it is not an easy task. Emotions come in the way of judgments, and rebounds can totally turn things around the bad way, if you know what I mean. So, then, how can you cope with a broken relationship (your own or someone else's) without including a whole load of chocolates and ice creams?

Think with your BRAIN
Emotions have an ability to over ride practicality when a relationship break up occurs. It is completely natural. However, a really important thing to do, when someone has broken your heart, is to review the entire relationship. I am not asking you to blame yourself for not seeing it coming (trust me!) I am simply asking you to retrospect on the relationship. You will now see several faults in the individual and flaws in the relationship. While I am not asking you to start hating that person and start planning the implementation of a personal vendetta against them. I am simply asking you to feel better about the good riddance. In retrospect you may also come across certain factors that may make you respect that individual for taking the decision to break your heart, for something better in the long run. You never know, right? So, sit down with a glass on water (alone) and just review the entire relationship, without bias.

Friends over Love
In a relationship, inadvertently, we tend to ignore our friends. Not because that is what we are planning on doing, but because we know that they will understand that we wish to spend more time with the people we love. After all, friends understand, right? Now that the relationship has ended, mind you, your friends can really help mend your broken heart. Spend time with them. Things might be a little different. You may not be the same person that you were before the heartbreak. But, your friends, your true friends, will accept you with the change and help soothe your disturbed soul. Go out shopping, to movies and restaurants with your friends and make it a point to have a good time. If you do feel overwhelmed with your emotions, open up to them and talk it out. Slowly, but surely, the smile will start reaching your eyes again. More so, you never know you might find love once again!

Love Yourself
Please understand that just because one person was bad enough to break your heart, does not mean that you don't deserve love. One of my favorite authors, (me) once said "There will be no silver lining without a dark cloud, nor will there ever be a rainbow without a spell of rain". Take the heartbreak in your stride. Yes, you are absolutely right to take more time to trust people now. Yes, I completely agree with you if you feel like avoiding relationships for a while. But I will feel like pounding you if you stop concentrating on yourself. Just because you have a broken heart does not mean that you have a warped wardrobe and an un-groomed personality. If you look good, you feel good. So, make sure that you take care of yourself. Carry on with your lifestyle, and don't let your looks bear the brunt of your feelings. In fact, I suggest that you put more effort into looking good now. After all, it always feels nice when you make a few heads turn, right? Feed your ego while you can, as it in turn, strengthens your self-confidence (at such times)!

Venting Machine
Many people make the big mistake of letting that feeling stay cooped up inside. BIG MISTAKE! Don't do that. It is a proven fact that confining your emotions and not releasing them leads to multiplication of the frustration as well as increase in toxins in the body. So, if you don't have friends who will listen to you and give you relationship breakup advice, or if you don't want to discuss things with them constantly, find a therapist. He will listen, after all, you are paying him for it. But always remember that dialog from The Holiday, "in the movies we have leading ladies and we have the best friend. You, I can tell, are a leading lady, but for some reason you are behaving like the best friend." So, take charge of your life. Start expressing yourself. Write a blog. If you don't want to publish the exact details of your life, make it discreet. Putting that effort into making it discreet, will also help you vent out the frustration. Just make sure you vent it, by talking, writing, singing, painting, or even yelling into your pillow, just vent it out!

I hope this article gave you the inspiration you need to get the gumption that your life requires! Mind you, dear reader, the only one to have control over your heart, is YOU! So, after the temporary change of hands that it had, it is time to take control and own it again! It is yours, take care of it! This is where I sign off! All the best!!

P.S.: Listening to corny sad love songs helps people as well. But I strongly suggest the likes of Celine Dior, Brian Adams and Cher. Men may find it hard to do it in front of others, so make sure you do it with your windows and doors shut!!

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