How to Not Fall in Love with Your Best Friend


Now really, why would you want that? You have this perfect friendship and falling in love with him would just ruin it for you and for him. When an intense and deep friendship exists between two people of the opposite sexes, things can get a bit weird, I agree. But one-sided feelings can make matters worse. It is very necessary that you keep your emotions and thoughts in check. If he doesn't have those feelings for you or if he is in love with someone else, you are indirectly creating confusion in a lot of places and for a lot of people. However, there are ways in which you can keep those thoughts away, for good. Check them out!

How Can You Avoid Falling in Love With a Friend?

Clear Your Thoughts
The first thing you need to think about is whether you really have feelings for him or if it's just a temporary phase in your friendship. Thinking more about these things might be able help you clear your thoughts for the better. You need to think when this started and how. Sometimes, unnecessary situations lead to development of feelings that might fade away immediately. So wait and think about when all this started and whether it fades away with the passing of some time.

Tell Yourself This Can't Happen
This helps in most cases and is one of the best ways to not fall in love with your best friend. Tell yourself this can't happen and just keep doing so. Eventually, you will understand that this really is a bad idea. Telling yourself this will also help you in accepting beforehand that forget about this working out, it can't even start. You need to tell yourself that you are going to think rationally and save your friendship from awkwardness and embarrassment.

Reduce the Hanging Out
Hang out with him a bit less day by day. Don't just cut out on meeting him one fine day as this will be an extreme step that might just raise suspicion from his side. If you meet him a bit less than usual, the intensity of what you have suddenly started feeling for him might just reduce. This will also help both of you to get used to not continuously being together. Sometimes you just get so used to being with someone that you feel staying apart can never be possible. In this situation, you need to try your best to maintain that distance.

Contemplate the Consequences
One of the best ways to discourage yourself against this new feeling is to think about the consequences. What if he thinks you're stupid to think something like this? What if he loves someone else and you have to then face all the embarrassment? What if he panics and stops talking to you? What if he thinks you're insane to think so much into everything? The answers to all the questions might just discourage you against the whole idea and for good.

Talk It Out
If you think that your best friend is understanding enough and won't take things to his heart, you can think about talking it out with him. He might tell you himself why it is such a bad idea to think about something that might ruin the friendship that exists right now. If you can't talk it out to him, think of a friend you can confide in. He/She might be able to help you with giving your feelings a proper direction and knowing if this is for real.

Hope these tips told you how not to fall in love with your best friend. In most cases, best friends start dating each other thinking there is no reason why they shouldn't. There have also been times when a beautiful romantic relationship has blossomed out of a friendship. However, you need to understand that a romantic relationship requires a different intimacy than a friendship. Dating your best friend might just hamper the equation you guys share right now. So, think twice before you act!

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