What is a Soulmate


"...and they lived happily ever after." This happens only in fairy tales, where the handsome prince saves the damsel in distress, the beautiful princess, falls in love and then lives happily forever. That's what all think. Jeffery used to think in the same lines, that was until he met Dorothy.

Jeff, 56 had been married to Carol, 48 for 28 years. To outsiders, they were 'made for each other.' But what the actual situation was, only Jeff and Carol knew. Carol was cheating on her husband, and no matter how much Jeff tried to forget everything and just move on, he could not. He tried hard to love his wife of 28 years, but failed. Even Carol could not get to love her husband. Jeff was devastated when Carol files for a divorce. Finally, sick of everything, Jeff tried to take his life. But before that, he thought of visiting the street side church for the last time. As he was coming out, he saw a woman, around 50 years of age, pruning the rose bushes near the church. As he approached, she looked at him, and then, time stopped. Jeff, till today, cannot explain what happened that time, but when he recalls that day, he says that it was as if time had stopped, he could hear the church bell ringing a sweet note, invisible people singing love songs in his ears, and all he could see was the woman and he could hear a voice, his voice saying, "this is the one you have been waiting for." She was Dorothy. They went out for just a week, and then, they got married in the same church where they saw each other for the first time. Dorothy says that when she saw Jeff for the first time, she forgot all her worries, and all she could think of was "he is mine forever." Jeff and Dorothy have been happily married for the past 30 years and have a large loving family. Jeff and Dorothy are soulmates.

Some of you, after reading this story might be asking, what is a soulmate? Is the person I am staying with now, my soulmate? If you are one of those, who still have not found your soulmate, or are not sure whether the person you love is your soulmate or not, then you have come to the right place to seek your answer.

Soulmates - What Do they Mean?

A soulmate is someone who has locks that fits our keys, and keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we are; we can be loved for who we are and not for who we're pretending to be...Our soulmate is the one who makes life come to life. - Richard Bach, American author.

I would say, this is one of the best definition of a soulmate, and these are the perfect soulmate signs. A soulmate is a kind of twin soul, where love and friendship in the heart is important, not what is superficial, with you whom despite having nothing in common, you will feel complete. In his "Symposium", Plato says that, humans earlier, were born with four legs and arms, until the Greek God, Zeus, split them in half and scattered them around the world. Since then, people have always been looking for their other half, or their better half, to make them feel complete. That is how it feels when you meet your soulmate. In the New Age however, although the concept of soulmate is nearly the same, they go a step further. It says that soulmate is probably someone who has been a part of your life before in your previous birth. Once you find your soulmate, and you are into a relationship, you complement each other and complete each other. By complementing each other does not mean that you have to agree on everything, but it means that you respect each others beliefs and practices, you understand each others humor. Soulmates shares a generosity of spirit, and practice team work when it comes to household work or bringing up a family. A soulmate complements each other by looking into their inner beauty and not what they are outside. Your soulmate may not look like Julia Roberts, but, you see a Julia Roberts inside her. And when you look at your soulmate, you hear all the time, that this is the most remarkable person that you have ever met in your life and will ever meet in future. With your soulmate, you want to grow old together and be together till your last breath. Remember the movie Serendipity, with Kate Beckinsale and John Cusack? That's one example of meeting your soulmate. You meet them by sheer accident. And you may meet them anytime; maybe at the age of 12 or maybe when you are 70.

She/He is my Soulmate Because...

There are certain signs which indicate that you have met your better half. When you meet them for the first time, you feel like you have known them since ages, you start feeling comfortable when you are with them. You feel as if there is no barrier between the two of you, and money, status are all secondary. You feel that you can trust him or her completely with your deepest secrets. You feel complete, as if you have finally discovered the missing part of your jig-jaw puzzle and now your puzzle is complete. But sometimes, unlike in the movies, it can take you years before you realize that the person you met is your soulmate. Well, this is useful even for the single people who would be getting into a relationship soon.

If you are actively searching for your soulmate, your better half, there are chances that you will never find them. You cannot force it to happen. But at the same time that does not mean that you shut yourself from everyone, leaving all in the hands of fate. Your soulmate will come when it's time. And then, you will be complete. And for those who have already found your soulmate, you are some of the few lucky ones. Keep them forever.

Until the end of time
You're my soulmate
I'll love you till I get to heaven's gate
And if I go first sweetheart
I'll wait
'Cause I know I'll never find another
soulmate
Josh Turner, Singer of the song, Soulmate

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